Does “height” really matter? Comment left on onedatewonderland.com
“Does Size Really Matter?” One Date Wonder asks
I really like this blog, has an interesting readership and a writer that doesn’t hold punches. She asked about height, and I responded. Fellas, it doesn’t matter, not as much as you think it does.
In fact, the only way to make it really matter… make it a real issue… is if YOU think it’s real issue/problem. If you think it is, I assure you, they will too.
As a friend recently said, “they feel what you think”. So think positively, seriously.. no joke. Think positively.
More on that later.
October 14, 2008 at 2:36 am
You know, women are picky about height- may not make sense but they are. On the other hand, men are picky about age- makes just as little logical sense. How abuot we call a truce and women date men shorter than they are and men date women 2 years older!!!
November 17, 2008 at 3:23 pm
I’m seeing a woman that’s … 23 years old than I am. And I hit on chicks taller that I am, all the time. I’m 5′10″ so I’m not the shortest guy in the room. Older, taller, for whatever reason, tend to get my attention.
Maybe I’m the exception, but women just have to be attractive to me, I don’t make any big deal about age or height and I guess that’s why they tend to be comfortable with me.
If a guy has hang ups about this stuff, then typically he’s insecure. Guys that date girls much, much younger, are guys in my book that have a problem relating to women their age or older, which tend to be much more mature. I haven’t quite cracked that egg though, but I feel it has to do something their own internally confidence. I think confident guys don’t care about these issues and thus help women they see, not care about them either.
I give the opposite advice to younger guys. Typically some of those guys have problems dealing with really young women because let’s just face it, 21, 22, 23 year old women are basically… adult girls. They’re not quite women and they tend to be very insecure as well and get hung up on things themselves. I always tell guys younger than me, to go try and date older women. Not only will they learn a thing or two, but older women play the stupid games that little girls do.
November 23, 2008 at 6:55 pm
Men are pickier about weight than age, as a rule. And that’s the truth. ;)
November 24, 2008 at 12:43 am
I kinda of agree, but with exception to the word “weight”.
It’s more like we’re pickier about “shape”… because let’s be frank.. 106 or 166 or 206… we can’t tell the difference if it’s all in the places we like.
December 8, 2008 at 8:33 am
Привет, я думала что это совсем не так происходит:)
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December 8, 2008 at 4:58 pm
I must say that although I am “very” picky about height, weight and overall good looks, when it comes down to it, I think its really all about your swagger (you know… you approach/pick up skills).
I could meet someone and totally not be into them “until” they say something that will either make me laugh. Who knows really what it is but I think it all boils down to:
1.) Chemistry – how well they appeal to you on a physical and sometimes mental level.
2.) Game – gotta have it to get any over here.
3.) Budget – gosh I always hope that he’s paying (as much as he’s talking) because I like a man with a friendly wallet and knowledge about his cocktails.
4.) Sense of Smell – He/she betta smell right cause this is a maker/breaker for me… LMAO
Cheers and keep up the great work on these articles. They Rock!
December 29, 2008 at 2:14 am
Height really does matter!! Nothing worse that feeling like a giant just because three inch heels make the outfit look super sexy…mary jane shoes don’t make every outfit!!
Another way to look at it…if guys could be taller…just like women can buy fake boobs…plastic surgeons would go crazy!!! Ask any guy five feet tall…if after a couple of weeks would he rather be six feet…then you will have the answer. Guys are more brutal to each other than any woman would be to a short guy.
December 29, 2008 at 6:08 am
What is Nancy really saying here? Think about it guys.
Yes, I agree with you Nancy, nothing feels “worse” than feeling like a giant just because three inch heels make the outfit look super sexy.
But WHAT is it that makes her want to be … SHORTER… then the guy she’s with?
Dominance.
Women, want a guy, to be naturally taller, because it makes them feel physically safer, compatible, whatever…
What she’s NOT telling you, is that all of that is a subset to confidence.
Coming from a strong frame of confidence, any woman would overlook a height discrepancy in a heart beat.
The thing is, you as the “short” guy, has to come from a strong, dominant frame, that expresses confidence in being to handle any situation that may arrive. There are SO MANY things you can do, to increase your own level of confidence, improve your “swagger” that this height is becomes inconsequential factor.
SURE, most women, all things being equal… would prefer a guy that’s taller than them. That being said, since things are never equal, there’s wiggle room.. A LOT of wiggle room.
Right now I am seeing two women that are significantly taller than I am, and I’m not a short guy…. 5′10″, national average? What makes them want to date me? Confidence. My attitude supersedes their superficial values they place on looks & height. The fact of the matter is, I am attracted to taller women, and that’s what I like. I don’t hide it, I don’t make excuses, that’s just what I like.
Take it leave it… they usually eat it up. Will you get shit-tested, of COURSE! They want to make sure they got the read deal, how else would you expect them to figure that out?
Short guys… don’t even sweat it. Hit on them like there’s no tomorrow.
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